I am extremely lucky that I have a close network of wonderful friends who have always got my back. Whether in Hong Kong or in UK, I know that these people will drop everything and help me when I need them. These people are the people I choose to have around me and just in… Continue reading Toxic Friends, Toxic People – Keep them out of your life!
To grow as a person, we must question the way we do things, we must question the things other people ask of us and we must live outside of the comfort zone. We must make mistakes and learn from them, in order to be able to understand how to improve the way we do things, just like in research.
It’s easy to get into the habit of comparing yourself to others. I do it, you do it, everyone does it. It doesn’t matter what you’re comparing, but whatever it is, you will never win. Someone will always be better than you in something, perhaps they are prettier, smarter, more popular, more intelligent, more successful,… Continue reading You’ll never win if you just compare
So, I’m one of those people that always focuses on the things I don’t like about myself and I let those negative thoughts overwhelm me.
I look in the mirror and I don’t like what I see. Big shoulders, small chest, no shape, big thighs, bulky calves, short stumpy legs, the list goes on and on.
I let my life be dominated by all the things I hate about myself and forget that for everything I hate about myself, there is something that is good about me too.
The more I look at the bad, the less I think of the good and this obviously isn’t good for my confidence. If I can’t learn to love me for who I am, how can I hold my head up high and let others see me for me?
I am trying to forget those flaws now, and just focus on the things I do like about myself.
I like my eyes, I used to wear circle lenses, but I’ve noticed that I get more compliments when I don’t wear circle lenses than when I do.
I’m quite slim too, I always want to be slimmer and skinnier, but I’m actually already pretty slim. If I did try to lose any more weight I would actually be underweight.
So heres to me being positive about myself and not dwelling on the things that I can’t change. This is me and it’s not so bad.
I encourage you to start looking positive too! 🙂 This is what god/our family gave us so let’s start appreciating what we’ve got and be more confident with ourselves! 🙂
If you’ve read some of my earlier blogposts I’m sure you know that I’m not the most confident person.
I put on this facade that I am uber confident and try really hard to hide how nervous I am but inside I am full of fear.
Fear of what?- well I don’t even know myself… perhaps its fear that people won’t like me, fear of what people are thinking about me, if they’re judging me…
Fear of other people.
I’ve been like this for a while now and it’s really made making new friends difficult. I constantly make excuses to myself for why I can’t go to a social event, whether it’s because I’m busy or it’s too expensive to travel, when in reality it’s because I’m just afraid.
I don’t have the confidence to go up to a new person and speak to them so going to a social event where I will have to do that really scares the hell out of me. Even if there is something I really want to go to.. I end up not going because I just don’t know how I ill act around other people.
I’ve been thinking for a while that when I move to HK, its going to be a whole new start and I can become a completely different person but I’ve realised that I can’t keep telling myself that I will change later, or it will be better later.
I have to change now.
So, I’ve made 2014 my year to change. Putting myself out there, doing things that I love to do and not caring about what others are going to say about me. I’ve been going to society meets and I’ve found that it’s not as bad as I thought it would be. People are actually much friendlier than I imagined in my head!
I can already feel my confidence levels shooting up and I feel a lot happier, and I’ve had some really great words of encouragement from friends and family which have just made me realise how silly I was to have all these doubts and self-confidence issues when I have such awesome people around me already- they wouldn’t be here if they didn’t like me! 🙂
So heres my video on how I’m taking the first steps to building my confidence and I invite you to do the same!